by Tejas Nair
“Choose… and select!” he spoke like a straightforward salesman.
“They are beautiful and… and so many of them,” the possible customer replied with thrilled eyes.
“Yep, this is what mine is famous for, if not for the actual job,” he smirked.
“What about the red one?”
“Your 3 o’clock; the one in the center… nice buns.”
“Oh, yes. Tall, well-endowed, fair. I figure Architecture.”
“Boy, I don’t know about the course but God did a nice job here. What’s the name?”
“That’s Nilofer. Age 19.”
We just eavesdropped, through traditional non-digital technique, two boys discussing about the mass population of girls – for possible prospects – in a suburban Mumbai college. What we should draw out from this unpleasant chat is its style. Regarding a lover interest as a “commodity” is an unpleasant thing to do, but is a fad nowadays amongst teenagers.
Last day while one of my friends illustrated his frustration of not being able to court a girl, another friend jumped forward removing his smartphone out. The better part of the next hour was used to browse the profile pictures of his WhatsApp contacts. After some negotiation and a baseless banter about how he would mythically enhance the size of the breasts of the girl he just saw only a picture of by indulging in lots of foreplay, the two blokes dispersed. I took a walk and tried to forget I was friends with them. Next day I found myself sitting with them at a cafe as they discussed few more absurd “future plans.”
A broader perspective on this topic infers to a notion amongst today’s teenagers about the opposite sex and this is not limited to the testosterone warehouses . Even girls talk and discuss about vulgar references. Even they want a well-endowed guy, if you know what I mean. The desire is justified but basing your selection on the sheer need of pleasure in bed is preposterous. The notion is the lack of decency that kicks in during love hunt. Lots of teenagers are adopting this same belief when it comes to courting. Why they consider their love interests as commodity has something to do with ON-OFF, casual relationships that boast off the “no strings attached” aspect. Lots of teenagers want to lose their virginity as soon as they enter colleges and if any of their friends lost it before they did, the craving shoots up to a level where they end up in a skid row and get off with someone they don’t know.
This leads to impure relationships in future and adversely affects marriage because when someone special enters their life, the previous “no strings attached” factors play spoilsport and they fail to manage. I have seen and talked to women who freely tag themselves as whores but I could also see the underlying hate. “I love having sex,” is all they say in defense. “She’ll love having sex with you. After all she’s a commodity,” is all her last bed partner says to his colleague.
The first step at enjoying a pleasant relationship is to avoid valuing a girl/boy as a commodity. Falling in love is natural; chasing that cute, coy lass of your class is something I would suggest and may even help you in. But, just for the heck of it… because you CAN use a relationship with no intention of bloom, even though the opposite party is desperate, is something I’d call off.
There are many such beliefs swaying around in teen circles as getting a pre-marriage sex experience will help them understand the art much better. And they know the consequences, as well. A strong relationship of considerable years that has the power to transform into life-long partnership can be a field to experiment, with precautions of course. A one-month moderately platonic fling with your neighbor’s daughter will be fun; getting laid the next day of the question pop may give you that much-awaited, fantasy orgasm, but it will definitely give youse some tags to chew on later: A CUSTOMER & HIS COMMODITY! Think about it!